Feelings and touching

Chris Campbell
Euler d
Insight into Daily Life
The last units we have been doing in Andy’s class dealt with the way people interacted with each other generally. Andy broke this unit into listening and touching and the dynamics of both. We first started talking about what a good conversation contains and what was a person general orientation of their conversation and if people are able to get their point across if two orientations of the same collide. As a class we said that in a good conversation one must pay close attention to the speaker in order to get more out of the person and get a great sense of how they feel while they are telling their story, also being able to stay on one topic and not jump back and fourth, making meaningful eye contact, body language and also giving appropriate responses showing the other person how much you care and you are listening to them. Also in a good conversation you are able to identify and express your emotions throughout the intensity of the conversation. The way we diagnose the touching part was by casual, compassionate, violent, therapeutic, and erotic. Each description of touching can determine ones touching orientation as well.
I would say for my own basic orientation while I m in a conversation is trying to get people to like me, laugh/ entertainment, but mostly depending on what the situation or topic is about shifts my orientation. While we practiced our orientation with others in our class, I had a conversation with my classmate Pablo. He told me that as of rite now his basic orientation was his girlfriend, I could tell from his face expression he meant that from the heart and that he cared about her a lot which is cool that I noticed that. Also for that particular conversation with Pablo I noticed that because of the serious level of the conversation I noticed my orientation changed to ask questions to see exactly how he felt and to show him I cared and understand what he was talking about. For that moment I noticed that maybe ones orientation can be altered depending on who the person is or what the conversation is about. I also noticed in many situations that people tend to give others their solution or their advice instead of letting that person find their own solution to their own problem, because maybe what you do might not be as helpful to that person then you think. Maybe if you ask more questions that person will be able to find their own solution. Also I noticed that when u are listening that the feeling becomes both a physical as well as mental connection. A great listener is able to read and show emotion, and at the same time be apart of the other persons life just by showing how much they care, which is much appreciated.
In class we talked about touching, and one important thing that I thought was true the most was when we talked about “taboo”. Taboo stated –giving pleasure with a good excuse. Our culture keeps people starved for touch; as a result all pleasure must come from a sexual partner. People have a deep need so they buy a lot of stuff. People look for social expectable ways for being able to touch yourself. My initial response to this was that it was true to me because people try to do things in which might have or receive pleasure for doing a certain thing. Later on we began to talk about sensual sexual toughing which I thought was basically a person getting touched only for sex, and sensual pleasure could be by anybody but just for pleasure. Sexual touching is by partners, clinical touching is y doctors, and friendly touching is not ok (viewed by society). I think the society makes or changes ones living because they are scared to be themselves because of the way they think the society might view them. We watched a movie in class that was about massages, which only meant pleasurable touching and that sexual touching was wrong. Overall because of our society people believe or choice to believe that there are only two types of touching sexual and sensual, but the movie demonstrates that there is more to touching and feeling then we think there is. The society as manipulated people to live their lives almost the same but different prospective about the way we think.